What is Stopping Your Milk and Honey?


Hello beautiful people, Happy Easter to you all. I hope you got to spend time with family and to reflect on the goodness of our God towards us, He loved us so much that He sent His Son Jesus to die for us. It took quite a while for me to realize the gravity of what God did for me, it was so surreal when I first gave my life to Jesus. However, Bible texts like the one where Abraham had to sacrifice his son Isaac, gave me a picture of what it was God did for me; He sent Jesus to take my place and to become the ultimate sacrifice for my sins and your sins, so that we no longer have to bear the consequences of sins anymore, if we confess them and repent.

Despite showing us that He really loves and cares about our well-being, many of us still complain, grumble and murmur to God when we face life’s challenges. When it comes to life, challenges are bound to be present, we cannot escape them. However, it is not really about the challenge we are facing, it’s about the way and manner in which we choose to respond to them, that’s what either makes or breaks us. I’m sure many of us have seen those videos and stories where someone who was born with a certain physical challenge works so hard and goes ahead to accomplish something great in life, but do you know that somewhere around the world, there are other people who were born with the same challenge, but all those ones do is just sit and throw pity parties, grumble, complain and give various reasons as to why they cannot do what others are doing?

We all remember the story of the children of Israel right? We have read about them and how God Himself through Moses, brought them out of Egypt, a land of slavery. God had promised to give them a land flowing with milk and honey, He provided manna for them so they wouldn’t go hungry while journeying through the wilderness, they ate and were satisfied. But at a point when they were fed up of the manna, they started complaining, grumbling and telling God that He would have left them in Egypt where they had cucumbers, and other things. When they came to a certain place where there was no water, they grumbled again. The children of Israel didn’t know how to communicate with their Heavenly Father, all they did was grumble and complain when they needed something. But Our Heavenly Father was not pleased with them, so He allowed them to perish because of their disobedience and unbelief.

I remember early on in my marriage, I would complain about literally everything; I just found reasons to complain in almost everything my husband did, and it wasn’t just me, Ben also complained a lot about virtually everything I did. This pattern of behaviour is kind of normal in a new marriage where the couple is just getting to know each other. In a new marriage, husbands and wives tend to complain, grumble and even ask what they saw in each other that made them fall in love in the first place. However, as couples mature in age and in the union and even in character, they figure out how to work things out without complaining, that is if they are really intentional about it and work at it.

When it comes to grumbling about what we are not comfortable with, a lot of us do it. But that doesn’t mean God has accepted it as normal behavior. In fact In 1 Corinthians 10:10, Paul admonishes us not to grumble or murmur as the children of Israel did and were destroyed. In this era of Social Media, it is very easy for us to compare our marriages with others, and then start complaining if our husband/wife is not meeting a certain standard that we have placed on them, just so we can also appear cool. It’s easy to complain and grumble if we don’t have the job we desire yet, or the promotion we want so badly. A life of complaining is very easy to live, because you will always have something to complain about, all you need do is just look around you and voila! It’ll be staring right back at you. But does complaining and grumbling make things easier? Does it change the situation or at least make it better? I don’t think so, only prayers and taking the right action brings people out of a dire situation into what they desire. I remember one time when I was working at a certain school, I had colleagues who would complain about everything; they complained so much that when you were in their midst, it was almost impossible not to be infected by them, in other words, that behaviour was contagious.

The children of Israel were meant to make a 40 day journey to their promised land, but because of their murmuring it took them 40 years. Their own mouths caused them delay in getting to their promised land. My question to you today is, could your own mouth be stopping you from your desired miracle? You may argue that what happened was in the old testament, but our God never changes, so unless we repent of all the grumblings and complaining in the name of Jesus, we might be on a dangerous path. Our mouths are powerful weapons, that’s why the Bible says “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”James1:19 What that simply means is that before you say a word, ponder carefully. Are your words going to build you or tear you down? Are they going to build or break your marriage, friendships and relationships?

I hope you enjoyed the read? Leave me your comments, I would love to read them.

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